Sometimes these letters are long, poetic, as perfectly constructed as a term paper for school. Other times they are hastily written notes I jot down in anger or frustration or sheer wonder on the back of a napkin or sticky note. I have nowhere to send them, so I keep them. They are concrete and solid, and in a world turned upside down where so very little makes sense to me, they are reassuringly real. Somewhere in the back of my mind it feels like I am saving up these letters for him.
I write them as though we are talking, as though he is in the room. I encourage all grievers to get out pen and paper and write to their missing loved one. To tell them the things you want to say, pour your heart out, and share those jokes that only the two of you will understand. Burn them, save them, publish them to your blog — whatever feels right. I still need to talk to you every day. Or in the mornings, over coffee. You hated mornings. I miss our mornings. I drink tea now.
And I surf the web while I drink. Sometimes I turn the tv on so it feels like someone is there. But sometimes I just like to feel alone. Even though it was mostly me talking and you pretty much just listened. You always were a good listener. Did I ever tell you I loved that about you? I hope so.
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Our thanks to guest author Emily Clark for sharing her story here with us. Photo Credit. And sometimes I send him private messages on Facebook. It really helps to just give the thoughts and emotions a place to go. Thank you so much for sharing this.
I too write to my late husband. Now I use it to talk to him… I also encourage my children to write him letters from time to time. Not only are they healing for them, but they allow me a window into their precious hearts. May you find strength and healing on your grief journey. It has been 17 weeks and 6 days…. It is soothing sometimes but sometimes I too just write something down to write…generally it is when I am upset over something and it usually helps me calm down.
Thank you for sharing your experiences…it has and does help me get thru these really long days. I miss him so much! I lost my precious husband 9 mos ago and the grief is still very real.
I write in a day planner daily but I never really thought of writing to him, I will give it a try. I talk to him frequently and would love to dream of him, oh just to look in those blue eyes one more time. God I miss him so. This is such a beautiful article. I also write letters to Zach, who I lost last October. It is really the only thing that has helped me survive even a little bit. Going from telling him everything to deadening silence is just too much to bare.
Thank you for sharing this. Thank you so much for posting. I lost my husband one year and five months ago to suicide. Tears still come so quickly.
There is such a void. Letters may help. Thanks for the encouragement. My aunt died 2 months and 1 day ago. This made me think of my uncle. I write letters sometimes and it helps. Thank you for this article. My husband died Feb. He was only 51 and died suddenly.
So many things were left unfinished and unsaid. I know he loved me, but I have a lot anger with his passing too. My wife died 43 days ago. It seems like years but at the same time like yesterday. Or am I? No, now, real talk. I wanted to tell you to watch out and take care of yourself. Please, be safe. I will be scared to death of anything happening to you. Please, just be safe. Now I probably sound like your mother, but I think I just love you too much and that is why I need to say all of this.
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As much as I feel in pain when recalling it, at the same time I enjoy every second of it because only then am I truly alive. You are my moon, my sun, my everything. I wish you the happiest birthday ever and I hope your every wish and dream turns into reality! I wish that our love becomes even stronger and that we never stop fighting for each other. Love you so much! I can feel your hands slowly undressing me, squeezing me, touching every inch of my skin. I can feel your lips on my neck slowly moving down and leaving their warm trace on my belly, on my thighs, on my legs, on my breasts….
So, when you finally start reading this letter, make sure to bring your sexy body here ASAP!
If you share, I will listen. If you listen, I will share.
I will be waiting for you, maybe playing a little bit with my body and you in my mind. Oh, if you only knew what I will do to you.
If you only knew…. Our bedroom. Also, make sure to wear those sexy red boxers that make your ass look so damn hot! Let me help you guess what it is. You wear it on the legs and it is so damn sexy that it should come with a warning. My body is screaming for your touch, your hand inside my panties, your strong grip of my tiny waist. Very soon…. But, I also know that we were made for each other and I will fight till the end of the world if I have to, just to be with you again.